Over this past month, the effect of the COVID-19 virus has been immense. We at Elizabeth Malcolm, are here to try and shine a light for all brides out in wedding land. We are sharing our top tips for feeling positive though this tricky and difficult time. As well as some ideas on how to handle your wedding postponement.
Firstly I want to say a massive hello to you and give you all a virtual cuddle. What a horrible and scary time for us and my heart goes out to you if you are having to rearrange your special day. As most of you have been planning for about 2 years, just even thinking about postponing your wedding, never mind actually doing this is extremely overwhelming and stressful.
With this in mind, I have come up with a few top tips for you so you can start to feel positive about postponing your wedding day. Also, there are some tasks you can be doing to try and lift your spirits and get you wedding-ready again!
Try Not To Panic, Your Wedding Is Postponed Not Cancelled
I know that is so easy to say and not that easy to put into practice, but just breathe… Your wedding has been postponed, not cancelled. You are still getting married to your favourite ever person and your best people will still be around you. It just may not happen on the day you were expecting. Guests will absolutely understand, and if they don’t then why are they even invited! Can you actually imagine after all this has ended, and we are allowed to gather and party again, just how happy everyone will be to celebrate with you and shower you with love and affection? The party will be epic!
Do Those Jobs You Wanted To Do But Were Running Out Of Time For.
Because of your postponement, now you have got the time to finish those handmade signs you wanted to paint. To creative photo booth backdrop that you couldn’t get your head around. Or even those pesky personalised favours you have been trying to create. Take back some control, be proactive and get some tasks done. You will feel so much better for it!
This article from Brides gives great tips on DIY wedding decorations that can give a personalised feel to the day!
Do Your Research
For those of you that are still in the planning stage. There is no reason why you can’t continue on with that. If you have access to a computer get emailing those suppliers you have been looking into to find out more information about them. They will be more than happy to hear from you. Trust me.
Why not browse through our collection?
Organise Your Research And Pinterest Boards
Get all your research together in a coherent file. And maybe go through everything you have collected. This will actually help you greatly in the long run as you are refreshing your ideas in your mind and can filter out elements you actually don’t want. Therefore resulting in you being a lot more prepared with cohesive ideas when life goes back to some normality. You can then resume wedding planning on the right foot.
Build Your Wedding Website
Wedding websites are a fantastic source of information for your guests and if you enjoy creating one you could really go to town with it. You could list hotels in the area, taxi companies, make an itinerary of the day, or days. The possibilities are endless here!
This is a really good article with examples of wedding websites
You could start online dance lessons! Now this one excites me so much! Learn a few moves to dazzle your guests with. Please don’t try the dirty dancing lift, we really do not need more people in AandE.
Be In Contact With Your Suppliers.
It is so so important that you have a good, trustworthy relationship with your wedding suppliers. Most will have already contacted you with their plan if your wedding is in the near future. If your wedding is more than 8 weeks away, don’t worry they will be contacting you.
I want you to know that as a supplier myself, our goal is to always have your back no matter what. We don’t want you to worry about anything concerning the service we are providing and the main objective is that you have the most amazing day! We love our jobs and who we get to meet, and actually by the end, many customers become friends through this process.
My fellow industry friends have been shaken to the core with what is happening at the moment to our beloved industry. Most are self-employed. Have spent years building their amazing businesses up from nothing and now have the very real threat of it being taken away. Please spare a thought for them at this horrendous time. Show your support for them any way you can. They are working tirelessly to still provide you with excellent service through these difficult few weeks.
Practice Self-care, Eat Well, Drink Lots Of Water
I think this one goes out to us all at this point. Again, very easy to say, but as I have been reaching for the biscuit and sweetie tin this past week, I have noticed a massive change in my skin! It’s red and puffy, I’m getting spots along my jawline and I am actually feeling quite sluggish in myself. I know this is partly stress related but I can help the situation by not eating an entire share bag of starburst at 11 am.
That’s not to say I think we should all cut out the yummy stuff completely! This is a horrible time and if I want to eat a biscuit I will! But maybe the nine after it isn’t such a good idea…
Take some time for you. Have a bath, read a book, get outside and go for a walk (whilst adhering to the social distancing rules). I am actually thankful that this is happening in spring. It is a lovely time of the year, full of new growth and new life. If it’s a nice day sit out in your garden, put down your phone and just be.
I’m not trying to be boring or preach at you with this one. But I truly believe in being kind to ourselves and one another. I understand how frustrating and upsetting this is. There is so much uncertainty and decisions are being taken out of our hands at a fast pace. But we are all in this together, we are all facing the same uncertain times. It is important to recognise how our actions and words can affect each other. Your family and friends. Those key workers, (which includes shop workers, the teachers, the caregivers, transportation workers, those superhumans fighting every day in our NHS) and many more people who are trying to do their jobs the best they can. Give them a smile, a clap, a show of support.
And lastly, be kind to yourself. If you need to have a cry, do. If you need to go for a walk without your other half, do. It’s okay to feel upset, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s how we deal with it after that counts.
Stay safe, Stay calm, wash your hands